GROW UP!

Let me tell you one of my biggest pet peeves, its when someone can’t say what they want to say. I’m a man of a certain age, and for as long as I can remember, if something was offered to me or presented to me as an option that wasn’t to my liking, I would politely, or in my case most of the time not so politely, decline. So why is it as grown ups, people can’t just say they don’t want something. If a woman is pursuing me that I don’t want to be pursued by, I simply tell her listen, I don’t like you in that way or in any way for that matter and I keep it moving with my regular scheduled program. I don’t hmm and haw and have her thinking that something will come of her pursuing me. I don’t give her false hope and sleep with her and make her think that there is a future for us, especially when I know for a fact that there isn’t. If all I want are the panties, then I simply make that known and if she’s down with that, then we proceed. If she isn’t, then hey, it wouldn’t be the first time I got turned down. I thought that once you reached a certain age, the game playing came to an end. Instead of simply telling a person that they are, to quote the great Bob Marley, “Waiting in Vain”, you simply don’t return phone calls, don’t respond to text messages, act like you didn’t hear when they said that they miss you. I guess after enough of that treatment, they should get the hint, right? But then when you finally realize that you’ve been had, led astray, run amuck bamboozled and hood-winked, you have to take it like a man and act like you weren’t hurt. You have to act as if the pursued didn’t give you, the pursuer, reason to think that something could actually come of your pursuing. Like they didn’t tell you that they love being around you, that they invite you into their home and all but give you a key and tell you to come by whenever. Like they didn’t tell you that you were dating when you didn’t even ask what your status was. But hey, I guess its your fault for actually thinking that this person was the type of person that meant what they said when they said it. It might just be me, but I miss the days when I would meet a girl, talk to aforementioned girl, ask her for her number, call her and ask her on a date, and she would say, “oh I would love to, but I’m not interested in you like that.”. To which I would respond, “oh that’s cool, hopefully we can still be friends.”. All the while, in the back of my mind I’m thinking, eventually she’ll get to know me and she’ll fall for me cause I’m a good dude and she won’t be able to resist. At least then I know that if I get hurt, it was no ones fault but my own, cause she told me point blank period that she wasn’t interested and I pursued anyway. Self inflicted pain I can handle, I would never hit myself harder than someone else would. It’s the sucker punch from someone I thought cared for me as I care for them that knocks me out. So for all you, phone call dodging, text message reading but not responding, too afraid to tell someone that you’re not interested people out there, I say one thing to you, GROW UP!