Chivalry! Is it really dead?

So lately I’ve been hearing this phrase a lot, chivalry is dead. So I had to take a moment to pause and really think about what I was hearing. I mean after all, its like they say, if it’s the common consensus, then it must be true. But then I said to myself, before I start believing the hype, let me explore this situation a bit further. So after a few weeks of investigating and a personal experience of my own, that I’ll elaborate more on in a later blog, I’ve come to the conclusion that chivalry isn’t dead, yet its been forced into hiding. Men are afraid to be chivalrous and express their emotions, and treat the significant women in their lives with the respect, love and care that they deserve in fear that they’ll be called soft, punk, a pushover, or in my case weak. They in turn choose to “thug out” their women, whether it be their mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, or significant others. They feel that if they treat their women like crap, that in return the woman will see that they really and truly love them, because as we all know, you only really love something if you treat it like shit. Woman have been trained from young to ignore the boys that show them attention and make them little homemade Valentine’s Day cards, and in turn flock to the boy that is constantly pestering and bullying them, because that’s the one who really likes you. No one wants to be with someone that wants to be with them, that’s human nature isn’t it. So as these little girls get older, they stick to the same theme. For example, they’re told that when they walk into a room, don’t talk to the guys that are oohing and aahing at her presence in the room, but instead gravitate to the guy in the corner who’s aloof to her existence. Which brings me back to my original point, these women, now older, single and still searching for “Mr. Right”, when presented with a man who isn’t what they’re used to, which is to say, he isn’t beating their brains out every third Monday of the month, and isn’t cheating on them with every Pam, Liz, and Sally, and doesn’t have 10 kids with 9 baby mommas, then he’s a punk and soft and weak for telling her that she’s everything that he’s been looking for and more, and that he wants nothing more than to be with her. I don’t know about you guys, but if and when confronted with the option of being with treated like shit and being swept off of my feet, I’ll go with the option of being 10 feet off of the ground. So before you ladies go running around, spewing false truths out of your mouths, ask yourself this, is chivalry really dead, or did you just scare it away.

Time away has always been a good thing!

Wow, I can't believe that it has almost been a year since my last post. I promise to never leave you guys alone for that long again. In this past year alot of things have changed, some for the good, some for the not so good. All I know is that everything that has happened has helped give me a more positive outlook on life. One of the things that changed was my relationship with my son's mother. At this time last year we were looking to work things out and see if we couldn't give it another go, maybe this time we could work it out for good, and if that didn't work, then we would go our seperate ways for good. Well, to make a long story short, we went our seperate ways, which I thought at the time was the worst thing that happened to me, but turns out, God has a plan for me. Sometimes when you're with someone for as long as her and I were together, you become content in the situation and you forget what it is that made you fall in love in the first place. Sometimes, the thing that made you fall in love in the first place doesn't appeal to you anymore, or sometimes people just fall out of love. I think with her and I, we both stuck around for so long cause we didn't know how to be without each other, and once we both had the opportunity to go out and explore what else was out there, we realized that maybe we just weren't for each other, and if we are, just not at this time. Like the title says, time away is always a good thing. Since her and I have went our seperate ways, our relationship has had its ups and downs, mostly downs, but I think that we're both starting to see that we both want the same thing, which is to raise our son as well as we both possibly can, and if a friendship comes out of that, then so be it. I've met someone new, well not technically new, I've known her since 6th grade, and we've been "dating" since around the beginning of the year. I, as usual want to jump in head first with her and tell her that I haven't felt this way about anyone in a long time, and that I know she's the future Mrs. P, but everyone, including her, has been telling me to take it slow. So I guess a snails pace it is. I mean, it can't possibly hurt to slow it down, take our time, and get to know each other, I mean its not like we were in close contact for the last 12 years. I mean besides, I wouldn't want to end up with another baby mother and no girlfriend/wife. The feelings are strong, I'd be lying if I said they weren't, but lets see what time has in store for us. I feel like I tell you guys too much sometimes, lol, but hey, that's the purpose of this blog! Have a good one folks!